yes OR no

masa cuti bulan 6 hari tu,lama dah.malam sebelum mata ni tertutup,adik last buat permintaan,since dia tahu tarikh untuk fly balik ke jordan makin dekat.dan,esoknya ialah jumaat terakhir.dia mintak esok pagi lepas subuh,untuk main badminton dengan dia.

badan sebenarnya agak letih hari tu,asyik keluar sana sini,dan malam tu dah agak lewat,buat ape tah dah lupa.tapi since bukan selalu dapat balik,akhirnya mulut ni cakap ya.tapi,dalam masa yang sama,sangat berharap supaya dia tertidur lepas subuh esok pagi huk-huk.

as expected,dia segar bugar excited nak main,tapi aku rasa tak larat.aku mintak tangguh setengah jam kejap lagi.dia marah plus sikit merajuk,cakap aku selalu macam tu,cakap nak main tapi lepas tu tak nak.set alarm,lepas setengah jam,aku terbangun,tengok tepi,dia pulak tidur.aku kejutkan dia,cakap jom main.boleh dia terus bangun -.- takpelah,janji main jugak.adehai,kesian jadi anak last,takde geng nak main semua dah besar.aku jugak yang kena jadi budak budak balik,hu-hu oke je,budak pun syok ape.dari jadi a-dull-t hwee hwee.

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tulah nak cerita.
dalam kehidupan kita,bukan semua benda kita kena cakap ya.ada masa masanya kita kena pandai cakap tidak.tapi,masalahnya [myself too] dalam banyak keadaan payah untuk cakap tidak.kita lebih suka cakap 'eh,takpeje boleh boleh' walaupun kepala kita tengah main mantera 'alamak' tak habis habis.mulut cakap lain,hati cakap lain.

art of saying no.

1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.

          -Leo Babota

ganas leo ni.anyway,saje paste.
mungkin perlukan lebih keberanian dan cerdik untuk menolak.ini memang betul betul bukan mudah.
tapi,semenjak kat sini,banyak juga benda yang dah ditolak.nak tak nak kena pilih.ikut kapasiti,well lain orang lain level kapasitinya.selaku yang bertanya pun,kena ada common sense.jangan marah kalau orang cakap tak.mesti ada sebabnya.

tapi,janganlah risau sangat,tak rugi pun tolong orang. oke,bai.